stjarna gets philosophical, but just for a moment

1)  I believe that everything happens for a reason. You may not ever understand why on some things, but it does.

2) I believe everything works out in the end. If you are genuinely trying hard and work towards making yourself a better person, things will work out for you.

3) I believe you should try everything once. Not necessarily things that are illegal, morally repulsive, or outright nasty; but you get the idea.

4) I believe that learning is a journey and not a destination. People open to new ideas and capable of incorporating them are the role models we should be following.

5) I believe that having a sense of humor is the ultimate coping skill and relationship builder of all time.

6) I believe that understand the patterns and cycles found in nature can provide insight to other things, including relationships. The world is essentially a group of forces interacting. Understanding and respecting those forces can help guide you, just as ignoring them can work against you.

7) I really love rice krispie treats, but only if they are chewy and not crunchy.

On a serious note…….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHtrjqVFXp4

   This is the YouTube link to the new Christina Aguilera video single called HURT. 

    I had never really gotten into her music before this point. Being nearly 40, there is almost something pseudo-lecherous about liking female singer who was about the same age as my drivers license. From what I remember, she started with the simple, pretty look. However, her last several incarnations, brought about a 20-something woman trying to find herself, have been seriously trashy. She should really just go back to her “Genie In A Bottle” day for a decent look. Let’s just leave the underwear tops, crimped hair, and fishnets for the bowling alley bar crowd, shall we?

     Anyway, this song sounds like it is about the loss of her father. Her career possibly having distracted her from her father, perhaps even strained the relationship. Sadly, it sounds like she didn’t get closure and her father is gone (one might assume death here, I guess). Musically and lyrically, this song – in my opinion – is great. The video even cleverly reflects that in a parallel storyline.

-stjarna

p.s. I would have posted the YouTube embedded link, but it seems that WordPress doesn’t play nicely with that function. If anyone knows a workaround, please contact me. Thanks!

p.p.s. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J0NSS0HblzM - I found her video “Genie In A Bottle” for those seeking more things Aguileric in nature. 

July 26th is my wedding anniversary

Number 9.

Just got back from a nice meal out with my wife. We are kid-free for the evening, thanks to my mother-in-law.

Stopped in for a bit to pick up some things to go out on the town.

You may now return to your regular activities.

Even Zombies need some lovin’

Job interviews vs. dating

Life is full of interesting rituals. Some are commonly known, while others are very obscure. Fewer still, the history of such rituals may have faded out of existence; yet some practices are still very vibrant today. I truly wish I could meet the inventor of the dress suit and necktie….and beat the crap out of them. I bet the same idiot also came up with ironing.

I have recently experienced a job interview. I spent much of the time thinking about it, as I also mentally prepared for the interview itself. I had finally come to the conclusion thatthe ritual of dressing up for a job interview is much like the process of going on dates. You spend way more time than you normally do to make yourself into something you really aren’t. You also spend way more time than normal with the primping. The silly thing is that once you get the job (or relationship), you never really have the same standard of getting ready. You no longer are spending time getting the wrinkles out of your clothes, and probably now just race to the dryer before the end of the cycle to hang your clothes before they wrinkle. You probably aren’t as ritualistic about picking that “special” underwear for good luck either.

For those of us who are familiar with the social phenomenon of interpreting verbal tone and body language, or maybe those people who just like to analyze the s##t out of everything can understand the thinking here. You can find yourself thinking through all your behaviors and trying to modify some of them so you don’t scare off any future prospects, job or date-wise. The most relaxed of people can become temporary Obsessive-Compulsives who evaluate their appearance and aroma levels constantly. You end up getting all keyed up, so that you can’t even calm down to even try to be yourself.

However, I think that job interviews are even more stressful as many things here can’t be applied to help reduce the tension. First of all, your chances of getting a cold beer or shot of alcohol in an interview are slim to none. There isn’t a substance to take here to take the edge off the stress. Taking substances in front of your interviewer, studies show, can reduce your chances of getting that job. Another serious drawback is that even if the interview goes well, your chances of getting naked are also not good….at least, with my personal experience as interviews go.

Job interview and dating do have something in common, though. After the first “date,” you still wait around by the phone…wondering and waiting to see if they call again. I suppose that it is in your favor to be waiting to hear from a job interview. It is not at all likely that the future employer will call back and say that they don’t think it’ll work out and then say that they don’t think they should see you again.

I don’t know. It seems to be a toss-up of what is worse.

-sj