There is a fundamental difference between men and women when it comes to interacting. When communicating, women use a combination of code phrases, verbal inflection, body language, and meaning tempered by situational circumstances. Men use something called the DIRECT APPROACH when sharing words to convey thoughts.
Here is a good example. You come downstairs after spending some time getting ready to go to a party. In example #1, a female makes a comment. In example #2, a male makes a comment.
Example #1: Are you wearing that? (meaning – please change your clothes because I don’t want to be embarrassed when other women check you out and then see I am with you.)
Example #2: Dude, you look like a dork. Let’s go. (meaning – you look like a dork. Now get in the car.)
Which, of course, leads us to more differences which rear their head in a social gatherings. Let’s say a roomful of men and women see a new couple enter the room. The men, as a whole, will check out the woman. The women in the room will check out the woman.
Girls will notice what the guy is wearing, what the girl he came with is wearing, and whether or not each outfit matches and is accessorized well. The guys don’t care what other guys are wearing. Guys will notice what a girl is wearing, but not in a “wow, where did you get that blouse? It’s fabulous!” way. The only extent guys will think about clothing is what the girls clothing would look like crumpled at her feet.
So, in closing, think carefully before responding to the Are you going to wear that? line.
Take your pick of the responses below:
-“My clothing is on my body, so the answer is yes.”
-“Would you like to dress me to be absolutely sure?”
-(point to her outfit and say) “Well, I certainly can’t wear THAT!”
-“It was either this or the other thing at the bottom of my dirty clothes hamper.”
-“Is this a multiple choice quiz?”
-“What do I get if I guess right?”