Category Archives: personal philosophy

5 Traits I Really Like In A Co-Worker

1) A Sense Of Humor – There is a time to be serious and get down to work, but being able to laugh is important too. You don’t necessarily need to be a prankster, but don’t take everything seriously.

2) Know the difference between venting and complaining – Sure. Everyone has their bad days. Things don’t always go smoothly. Let people know you’re having a bad day, then try to move on. Don’t become the human dark cloud who then evolves into a psychic vampire and drains the life and enthusiasm for being there. If things get that bad, dude; quit. If you are reading the classified during your lunch hour; it might be time to move on.

3) Flexible – Things don’t happen when they need to, nor does the equipment work the way it’s supposed to all the time. Figure out work arounds. Don’t go postal.

4) Be willing to help out where it’s needed – Don’t be the person who will literally only do the things specifically listed on your job description. Especially if you work in a small office, being willing to help others can go along way.

5) Beware of the psychological condition of TRANSFERENCE – If you just ended a customer call after getting your face ripped off because they didn’t get their way; don’t take it out on anyone.  Empower yourself.  Learn what you can and can’t do, then only worry about the stuff you can change. If a customer tries to rip you a new one, tell them you’re willing to help but not be abused. Be willing to help, but not willing to be a pariah for all the evils ever befallen from them in the past. Oh, and don’t go blaming the person or group who handled the issue before. Bad karma, otherwise.

Bonus trait: practice decent personal hygiene. Co-workers are willing to cut you some slack for the occasional broccoli in the teeth thing after lunch. Bad coffee breath is possible to cope with for brief periods. I am talking the shower/bath thing. Clean off. Use deoderant or other anti-stink technology.


Important things to know about religion*

*as revealed to me by life experience. This is only my opinion.

1) No one adherent truly represents a religion. This is good news for those who are bad examples, and bad news for those who think finding religion is an easy job.

2) A flaw in the practice of its adherents doesn’t not necessarily mean a flaw in the religion itself. Those who hold themselves up as spiritual beacons aren’t necessarily the ones to follow. Frequently, spiritual leaders are so busy leading spiritual lives that they don’t have time to draw attention to themselves.

3) Religion is not simply the act of attending church, nor is religion seated in a symbol. It’s not even a specific set of rituals. Those are all external things that believers and non-believers can focus on alike. While mocking a religious ritual or destroying a religious symbol is disrespectful, faith is something that can only be damaged by the person who chooses to give up hope. If you have a strong faith, there isn’t an external force on the planet that can change that.

4) Religion, like any human endeavor, is subject to bias. A spiritually weak person will bend their interpretation of  sacred text to serve their own wants & needs. A spiritually strong person works toward changing their behavior to fit into their interpretation of sacred text. As I have also said before, spiritually weak people also prefer holding others to a high spiritual standard before holding themselves to the same standard. Control issues, manipulation  or deception can exist without religion. Religion can just be a means of delivering such an agenda.

5) Finding religion is only a matter of asking the right questions and looking in the right places. It starts with the honest willingness to look and not asking the same questions over and over again. It is finding your own proof, even if indirect, that the divine exists. Taking someone else’s assumptions at face value limits your own growth. I also think that the spiritual journey involves more doubt and fear that you may be lead to believe exists.

6) There is nothing wrong with ritual. It provides stability and security for us. It can be comforting. It provides predictability in the face of an unpredictable world.  Some require more structure to their ritual than others, but there is no one answer for everyone.

 7) Having faith simply means the ability to have hope.  Having enough trust in a feeling that everything will work out, despite what the immediate circumstances may tell you. That is faith. This then leads to building your relationship with the divine.

8 ) Wisdom and truth are timeless. You don’t have to be the oldest or have the most adherent to be validated. Mocking, lying or distorting the religion of another can also be a means of disempowering it. Those become the socially acceptable way to destroy the competition since imprisoning, torturing and killing others for their faith isn’t an option anymore…at least, in this country.

9) Many words are subject to different emotional meanings which includes the use the of the word PATH to describe religion. Some assume this means there is only one. Others see it as many paths all leading to the same destination. The word God means many things to many people. Some believe its masculine. Some believe its feminine. Some believe both genders. Some neither or that it’s a force. As it is an infinite being, finite beings such as ourselves can wrap our brains around the entire essense of the divine. People who are overly concerned with debating the mortal concept of gender as it applies to the divine have probably not made the spiritual leap yet.

Trying to understand man-hating themed blogs

   I have recently come across several anti-male blogs. Some women who are sharing their perception of the male species. Aggression, violence, rape, murder, and other atrocities committed by those who share my gender are listed as common traits. My mind reels with thoughts on this one.

    I firmly believe that we were put on this planet by a divine force. Call it God, Goddess, Deity, The Divine, Allah, Hashem, Hecate, Kali, Ashtaroth, Pazuzu, Chuck, whatever; some being with remarkable powers to create life from nothing.

   In creating that world, it has structure and is full of many discernable patterns (some not so discernable). Among those patterns are forces. Forces that maintain a balance or equilibrium. When these forces are not in balance, things go wrong. Sheer forces build up, we get earthquakes and tsunamis. Electric charges build up, lightening strikes. Political power wielded without balance; people lose their voice or rights and are subject to the whims of those in power. This includes forces like love, lust, jealousy, fear, etc. These forces can be beautiful when they work to our advantage and harmful or deadly when they work against us.

     Hate and anger are both natural forces. Like any other force, neither is designed to be the permanent standard.  Another trait of forces are that they are not static. Being dynamic means there is a constant shifting, but the ultimate balance is still there.

  I see these man-hating blogs, much like any other blog where the viewpoint becomes more important than any supporting information to that effect.  I think poster children of the unbalanced include anyone who used the US vs. THEM thought process.  Religious, political, social, or ideological divisions of this magnitude also lack the natural equilibrium to be supported.

that’s just my thought on it.

Here is the one that triggered the post…but it is not the only one I have seen.

Gettin’ philosophical, but just for a moment

1)  I believe that everything happens for a reason. You may not ever understand why on some things, but it does.

2) I believe everything works out in the end. If you are genuinely trying hard and work towards making yourself a better person, things will work out for you.

3) I believe you should try everything once. Not necessarily things that are illegal, morally repulsive, or outright nasty; but you get the idea.

4) I believe that learning is a journey and not a destination. People open to new ideas and capable of incorporating them are the role models we should be following.

5) I believe that having a sense of humor is the ultimate coping skill and relationship builder of all time.

6) I believe that understand the patterns and cycles found in nature can provide insight to other things, including relationships. The world is essentially a group of forces interacting. Understanding and respecting those forces can help guide you, just as ignoring them can work against you.

7) I really love rice krispie treats, but only if they are chewy and not crunchy.

I am really thinking of converting to Pastafarianism

The Church Of The Flying Spaghetti Monster may really seem like a fad, but their literature really spoke to me. It said “I am cooler that Church Of The Subgenius, yet have half the calories of other religions.”

I read testimonials on the website that some spoke of being “touched by his noodly appendage” and recoiled in horror, yet much like driving by a car accident; I felt obligated to continue to stare.

Religion is serious business….and if you play your cards right, you can really crank out some crazy theology. Just ask Pat Robertson….One day, you call a hit on the President of Venezuela and the next day you speak of God forsaking Dover, PA. While I have never been to Dover, PA; I have been to many other places in the United States. There are far many other cities that are better examples of God’s neglect. Mahanoy, PA would rank up their on that scale. Willoughby, Ohio would be on that list; along with Wickliffe, OH…..Akron, OH…..and pretty much anywhere within the state of Michigan, especially mid-state.

The only other on-line religion that I have felt drawn to is Kibology. However, Kibologists are remarkably silent when it comes to proselytizing. There are few pamphlets, but the information available is very conflicted. However, it sounds like doctrine taken from CHURCH OF WHAT’S HAPPENIN’ NOW.

That, my friends, is for a later post. Alas, I must go to bed because I am way tired.


thoughts about a bumper sticker: You can’t be Christian AND Pro-Abortion

While driving to work, I saw this bumper sticker and it had me thinking of its implications instantly.

On the surface, this makes sense. After all, there is a Biblical Commandment that says “Thou Shall Not Kill.” I don’t think there would be any argument this wouldn’t be a Christian sentiment. I also don’t think that most people would have a problem with the idea that society should have structure in place to provide security and predictability to those living within it. However, I think that this falls into the same trap as the Wiccan Rede of ‘Harm None.’ There is the literal interpretation versus the following-the-spirit-of-the-law interpretation.

Life is, of course, sacred. We, as mortals, have made many advances since our arrival as a species…..the wheel, fire, sliced bread, The Internet, coffee, etc…… However, we are still not capable of generating life outside of the process that we inherited. Every time we create life, we are invoking a power or force outside of ourselves…even if we don’t acknowledge it. We, as mortals, have also figure out that we can take life. It can be done in science labs, barrooms, alleys, hospital beds, during surgery, in the act of war, and even in a fit of depression. Having this power gives us some pretty big choices. We have the freedom to make those choices, but there is responsibility in taking those actions. Consequences beyond legal ones.

The decisions we make aren’t always easy to make as there aren’t always obvious choices. It might be easy to keep the “Harm None”/”Thou Shall Not Kill” theme until presented with a tough choice. What if your country calls you to serve in the military which is directly involved in killing an enemy? What if you serve in a support position? Are you any less responsible for the killing? Does supporting the troops back home make you an accessory to killing? If you are protesting the war, does it make you less patriotic or more Christian? Do you become violent to make your point? What about contesting abortion? Do you kill to protect the life of fetuses? Is life just as sacred when you talk about a hardened criminal who commits acts of violence beyond comprehension? Does it become a choice when we see a loved one in a vegetative state or with a terminal disease which becomes progressively worse? What if someone dies in an car accident where you are one of the drivers? Does intent have a bearing here? Is a karmic lesson to be learned?

It is because these choices are not clear-cut that holding an extreme line doesn’t really work. The ALL or NOTHING of both of these concepts, like any ultimatum, is likely to give you an answer that you may not feel is right. After all, you are pre-selecting one of what you’re predefining as only two possible choices. You might be able to take comfort in not taking life, but that doesn’t automatically reestablish emotional equilibrium in all circumstances. Choosing your destination before you either have all the information or choose not to process it all means you aren’t going to end up in the right place. Life is not any less sacred by looking at the gradation of this argument. It means we have to work harder than to attempt to apply one of two choices on a self-imposed scale.
If you are looking for life answers, you have to turn to your faith. Exploring your relationship with the divine force will give you the answers you are looking for. Once you find them, you will also discover that your religious beliefs can’t always fit on a bumper sticker.